You shouldn’t be treating nb people like the secret sexy 3rd gender. Nb people don’t look like a mash of male and female, they’re not sexy androgynous twinks
white skinny androgynous nb people reblogging this and saying shit like “Well this is what I look like! So I feel represented!” Are literally part of the problem. I’m not saying that no nb people are white/skinny/andro, I’m saying that those are the only type of nb bodies that get represented
its nice, isnt it, when nonbinary people are visibly distinct from binary people? its easy, isnt it? you can remember to use “they” for people who have no visible breasts or beards, right? no need to challenge the notion of male vs female if nonbinary people have their own look, isnt that right?
its time to step the fuck up and really understand that nonbinary looks like anybody. nonbinary looks like you. nonbinary looks like your family and friends and it looks like the strangers who you thoughtlessly call “he” or “she” because of their appearance.
really supporting nonbinary people means understanding that theres no visual tell - you wont recognise all of us as nonbinary on sight. you have to actually LISTEN to us. you have to BELIEVE us. and it means challenging your assumptions about gender, starting with the assumption that youre an ally to trans people while youre still doing puerile shit like gendering body parts and clothes.
NONBINARY LOOKS LIKE ANYBODY. ANY BODY CAN BE NONBINARY.
Billie eilish is no longer the weird girl with blue hair that makes emo music 4 teenage girl she is now getting called a “sex symbol” lorde had 2 up her game too I can’t think of any mainstream female artist that isn’t part of the whole “be sexy it’s empowering” i hate that female artists literally can’t be different it’s all the same male artists can do whatever tf they want women just femininity femininity femininity so sick of it God.
………………….i am in budapest because i was born here and ive lived here all my life in the same house. which i still live in. which is in budapest. sometimes ppl just live in places??
so irrespomsible of roughly 2 million people to just be in budapest didnt you know theres a global pandemic??
thinking about when anthony bourdain said “what nicer thing can you do for somebody than make them breakfast?” / and when dean martin and helen o’connell said “how do you like your toast in the morning? i like mine with a hug” / and when honorée fanonne jeffers said “see, stay alive/in the meantime, laugh/a little harder. go on/and gnaw that bone clean” / and when i called her on the phone my mama said “come home and i’ll cook you whatever you want, i just want you home”
and when bobbie gentry said “come on, darlin’, time to get up, i have your breakfast table set up/it’s such a lovely mornin’ to see and i have my mornin’ glory with me” / and when the bee gees said “breakfast in bed, wrapped in each other and out of my head, she keeps on coming back for more” / and when alan alda said “flirting over food is really the best way to flirt; it’s combining two really nice things—food and sex” / and when ada limón said “this morning/the sun is coming alive in the kitchen./you’ve gone to get us gas station coffee/and there is so much life all over the place” / and when we skype in the mornings my partner and i drink coffee together and if we skype in the evenings i always ask what they’re having for dinner and even though they rarely know what they’re having it still makes me laugh to ask
and when caitlyn siehl said “you are making breakfast in every dream that i have of you” / and when frank o’hara said “what are you doing now/where did you eat your/lunch and were there/lots of anchovies it” / and when W.S. merwin said “please one more/kiss in the kitchen/before we turn the lights off” / and when amy key said “to eat eggs together suggests a synchronised hunger, suggests sleeping and waking together, and says please linger, please stay” / and when laura nyro said “can you surrey? can you picnic?” / and when mayer hawthorne said “let’s order breakfast in bed and leave the ordinary world behind/champagne, strawberry jam; i want you to know who i am” / and when the late great anthony bourdain said “when someone cooks for you, they are saying something. they are telling you about themselves; where they come from, who they are, what makes them happy”
